Thursday, March 12, 2009

Random went What If....

Yesterday I posted in my Think About It Thursdays post the loaded question "What If?"

Reading all the comments and 'inspiring' 2 others (Antibloggedy & Lady With a View) to actually write a post on the subject made me feel inspired to do my own list of What Ifs.

So, to share with you in my Friday randomness (and for others please join Mrs. 4444 at Half Past Kissing Time for other Friday Fragments)

My What Ifs.

What If...

.....My parents never got divorced.

.....My father would have stood up to his girlfriend more and forged a stronger relationship with me and his two other daughters.

.....He never died from cancer my senior year in high school.

.....I actually went to the California for college after I graduated instead of staying for a "boy".

.....I stayed 'true' to said boy instead of finding a new one.

.....I actually stayed in school and got a college education instead of focusing on the 'job education'.

.....I married the wrong person.

.....Did not befriend my new roommate.

.....I never took the chance to do what I wanted for the first time as an adult.

.....I listened to the person that said I couldn't do it by myself.

.....Never started a relationship with new roommate and eventually marry him.

All of this, every single WHAT IF has lead me to the absolute reason for the path I am on.

My kid.

Changing just one thing above would change this one absolute truth in my life.

No regrets.

Just the life journey I have chosen to walk-crawl-sprint-mad dash on to meet the most beautiful person who would come into my life.

23 ramblings of your own:

Anonymous said...

It's a good post.

I wonder about "what ifs" sometimes, but in the end I'm really happy where I landed. I think I need to make a few mistakes to appreciate what I have.


Janna Bee said...

I totally think the SAME thing about my children. That is why I have no regrets.

Great thinking questions!

Funny in my mind said...

Lovely...we do things for a reason. Sometimes they are good at the time and in retrospect were not so good. We cannot see the future. You have done the best you can.

DiPaola Momma said...

LOVE it!! Life realy is about living without regret.. after all, good or bad it's those things that make us who we are (as long as we aren't serial killers or corupt politicans..he he) that's a good thing!

DIG the new bloggy layout by the way!

Kalei said...

I am glad you have maddie, because she is the best BECAUSE to your WHAT IF. Love you....I know your not way older, but I wanted to make you laugh before making you cry. =)

Kalei said...

Dirty Poopy stinky Diapers on board. If you piss me off I will throw one at you. So stay the "F" off my bumper! =)

I know it is a little late, but that is my sticker statement from your post about what sticker should be on my car. =)

Anonymous said...

The paths we take are sure bumpy sometimes but with a reward like that, it does make it all worthwhile!!!

Penz said...

I would list some what ifs too, but God has helped to pave the way for me in this crazy life and I am too exhausted to list the millions of what ifs that i have...however, I will give you one...

what if...

I never ate that big ol burrito last night....maybe my stomach wouldn't need so much mylanta! :) Just thought I'd add a little funny...seriously though, I am drinking mylanta with a mocha cappucino. YUM! ;/

MammaDucky said...

Whenever I think about if there is anything I would have changed or done differently in my life I think of that song, "Bless The Broken Road."
"I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

I think about the years I spent just passing through
I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You've been there you understand
It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true


Now I'm just rolling home
Into my lover's arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you."
Sorry that was so long.

Smoochiefrog said...

I have those what if days too.

Tooj said...

I love that. It all leads to ONE THING. And that one thing makes all other things negative disappear. :) Okay, now I want to fly home to my babies and snuggle all night long.

Mrs4444 said...

All of the little fragmented decisions add up to the best BIG part of your life. That's nice. :)

Muppet Soul said...

You are so right, my darling darling darling Rambler...

You change one thing, it changes everything.

And that's a HUGE reward ( I imagine as much as my virgin uterus can).

Umm, sidenotes? I think you're my soulmate.

1). I did NOT know your Dad died from cancer ( mine too)

2). I stayed away from CA after college for a boy

Oh! And "marrying the wrong person"... I want to hear about this.


Fiauna said...

What a nice post. I couldn't agree more.

Christine said...

I would like to say that I have no regrets in my life. But...I can't. What I CAN say is that while I may regret a thing or two or three....The mistakes or wrong turns have ultimately become lessons that at the end of the day.. are priceless!

It's Just Me said...

Dancing through from tangobaby's blog. I like this idea. You have a lovely place here - thanks for the peek.

Anonymous said...

Great post!

jineen said...

this is beautiful! sometimes i guess we really don't see where we are gonna end up til we get there huh?

Mamarazzi said...

great regrets, a beautiful way to live indeed. i feel the same way, everything that is my past makes me who i am today and i am totally cool with that. what an awesome feeling.

I decided to take a minute and visit my fellow Welcomistas…I should have done this a long time ago *hangs head in shame*.

OH and be sure to come by and enter my FABULOUS giveaway too…so much fun stuff happening in the SITStahood, I’m L-O-V-I-N-G it!!

Martha said...

Amazing list, you have much insight.
I just posted my What If on my blog. You inspired me too, Rambler. Mahalo Mucho!

Cindy DG said...

Great what ifs, really makes you think! Thanks for sharing and also posting links to the others.

Maki said...

Awww this post is soooooo true!!!!

I'm glad you did this because it reminded me of something important in my life, too..

Thanks honey!!

Minka said...

He was tired after work, aged 20 and something and wondered whether he should go to bed or to the disco and have some fun. There he met me.

If he had decided to take a good night's rest instead, we wouldn't have had 9 years of lousy marriage, but then, we wouldn't have two wonderful children either - no time machine could fix this, I guess things happened as they were supposed to. I'm not sorry.